this was posted the 18th of March
post edited (my edit in bold)
and post edited again by the user (his edit in bold)
drama got posted also on facebook (by the user)
also tweet from @as3lang (which I admin too) from 18 march
I post all that, because if, as a user, you never experienced or witnessed what name-calling, insults and personal attacks look like, well ... all this topic is a quite good illustration of it.
Above, you have all the tangible facts, the actual text that have been posted and edited by me, as an admin.
In this actual topic you can see my answer and also a serie of exchange that were originally private messages but that I decided to move in this public topic.
From all that stuff, me, as a person, I have received threats, insults and other peer pressure "do this or else ...", "change that or else.." , "apologize or else...".
It's OK, I would rather "take the hit" for that kind of ugly and messy shit than anyone else on this forum, I got a thick skin I can deal with it.
Now, as a user or even simple lurker (someone not registered to this forum and coming just to have a look), you can go blindly with the lynching crowd or maybe try to think for yourself.
What did I do that was so bad and so wrong to be called a "toxic arrogant brat", to be accused of being "unprofessional" and having "a history of inserting inappropriate comments" or other "incorrect behavior" or to be threatened to "digg my own hole" etc.
I wrote 1 little humorist piece meant as a prank, edited right under a user message, I did not hide it, I even posted it on the @as3lang twitter account and I waited for the user to realise an edit happened.
8 days later, the user realise it and you got now that drama topic about how I wronged someone yadda yadda yadda
But you see I did nothing wrong, that's the job of an admin to edit posts when he/she see something as negative for the community.
Even if you consider it was wrong to edit the user comment, look at what have been edited: did I removed or deleted the user text ? nope, did I assumed anything about what the user wrote ? nope, was I rude ? nope, did I insult the user ? nope, did I threatened him in any way ? nope
I added text underneath the user comment, this text
Also, after mature reflection, I came to the conclusion that I should not post while my dog is humping my leg; It's cute, and sure it provide me with the much needed affection I need in my life, but ultimately it is obscuring my judgement. The sad state of affair is that before having this love story with this lovely ball of fur I had a long relationship with a sheep, as everyone knows I love sheep, I lov'em so hard!!, sheep are the best!! go sheep!!, and since that sheep left me I just feel so empty inside, nothing make sense anymore and that's why you can see me loitering here from time to time, browsing trough the topics without taking the time to read them as I'm so torn apart by the lost love of that sheep and this new puppy love ... I feel so fragile now.
and yeah I'm not a professional comedian, you may not find it funny, others found it hilarious, but this text was specially crafted to convey a little message highlighted in bold above, the rest is just filler
and yeah you may be offended by the joke, the same way a stand-up comedian could make a joke about "blonde girl" or a "bold guy" and you happen to be a "blonde girl" or a "bold guy" in the crowd, yeah I see that you could take it the wrong way, but in itself the joke is not a personal attack against you
That's why you see me commenting about how people should be able to take a joke, it was just that: a joke
Fair question is why make a joke on this particular comment ?
You see, when people spend time reading and writing on a forum, time become a kind of value, if you don't have time you don't contribute, no problem, if you just have a bit of time you contribute something short and that's good too, and if you spend more time you can make a more detailed contribution and this is seen as better simply because you spent more time on it.
The whole purpose of having a forum with people talking and exchanging is to gain from their different point of view, experience, take on things, etc.
When someone post a link, it is a small short content, and it's OK, links can be useful, but in general a link with more context is considered better because it provide the reasons why you are providing the link, "by reading [this link] I finally understood how to do that" or "check [that link] out there is a great example about stuff there".
Why considered better? because the context allow the person reading your link to follow it right now or later or ignore it, and not leave the actual conversation happening in the forum.
In this topic: When and Where can we use Workers
when a user @CPS posted a link without too much context
I came gently, as an admin, mentioning
I know that the forum is new etc. and I don't want to sound like enforcing too strict rules
but, if you include a link, maybe add bit more context around it
see for reference this discussion on stackoverflow
I didn't do that to harass the user and he didn't took it the wrong way (as far as I know)
then later when @dogofpavlov comment and post just a link
again, as an admin, I gently suggested
Did you read what I wrote to @CPS comment above ?
same apply to you
providing a link is nice, but you have to give more context
have you used this library?
what do you think of it ?
give maybe a code sample you used recently?
I didn't attacked or harassed or bullied the user
but he decided that I was going out of my way by asking that and insisted heavily on correcting me
No in fact I did not read your comment as I was quickly browsing/skimming this thread, saw someone say they had a problem, so I figured I'd share a source I happened to have come across...by providing a link and then I was out and back to work.
Not everyone has time to setup these forums and have super detailed discussions.... (as I'm at work).
Should I next time just refrain from helping and contributing since it doesn't meet your standard?
Be happy people are communicating and sharing....
by default this comment is off topic
as a moderator I made some suggestions asking for context and sure the user is perfectly free to ignore that, after all he does not have the time to read right?
for the time it took to write all those lines, my opinion is that the user could have made a more insightful contribution by ... guess what? following the gentle suggestion and providing more context
but no, it was apparently more fun to be confrontational and dismissive about it
I did not commented back by answering the question "Should I next time just refrain from helping and contributing since it doesn't meet your standard?" to not encourage such confrontational behavior.
And the discussion continued with others people involved, staying on topic and who kept talking about Workers.
My little joke about editing the user comment and adding to it did not disturb the topic, some ppl may have noticed it, may have find it funny or not, it did not destroy the conversation about Workers.
That's what I did as an admin/moderator of this forum.
I own it, it's not wrong, in no way you can see that as personal attack.
Now, 8 days later, the user came back, saw the edited comment and started a campaign of FUD (Fear, Uncertainty, Doubt).
First action was to send a threat on a private message
I'll give you a chance to respond before I shame this forum
This is more than being confrontational and dismissive, this is what I would call a troll behavior
ah the classic threat of public shaming followed by hate messages and threats to intimidate
it's about a user trying to start a fight with the forum's admin
some sad people get their kicks on that
Let's get some quotes from this article about forum troll
Forum trolls are members of a forum who try to disrupt the forum and create drama
A lot of forum trolls will “troll” debate topics, topics with a lot of opinion and topics that are negative towards staff team members.
they want some "authority" to back down in front of their "witty" comments
in that case the "admin" is considered the "authority" and then the target
how juicy it could be for a troll to have the admin of a forum that just started few weeks ago to admit how he was wrong and to publicly apologize to him
which is also what came later in other threats
You need to get over yourself, fess up and admit you were wrong.
And if I take the time to answer all that shit now instead of ignoring it
it's because this FUD is about insinuating that people are not safe here
that many things have been said, by let's say: people contributing a lot into another forum but contributing not very much into this forum, about how I should correct my incorrect behavior.
And I must say it goes pretty far, from defamatory comments to me bullying people etc.
Wow I must be some kind of pure evil admin
But yeah I did something wrong thinking I was doing something right.
Here what I did wrong as an admin:
I allowed a disruptive behavior to escalate
my intent at humour to teach a lesson was clearly the wrong answer to a troll
I should have used the classic expected reaction to purely ban or kick out a user looking more for trouble than having a normal discussion.
Even worst, on this very topic here, I enabled even more this disruptive behavior by allowing the troll to express himself freely.
I don't like censorship, I consider banning a user a very violent act and I naturally would favour discussion over a cold hard ban.
I also feel uncomfortable about banning people as it make me feel as the troll is winning at censorship, and can come back again bad mouthing the admin "look he ban people, this is injustice!".
But this is a serious problem as he allow some individuals to damage the community, even to the point where they would succeed to present themselves as victim.
It's a classic: "Don't feed the troll", I should have known better.
And quoting again the article about forum troll followed those advices instead
How to deal with the forum troll
A simple warning by private message should deter most disallowed behavior on your forum. If the member continues to abuse the rules, then they have nominated themselves as a forum troll. You should ban them from your forum before they can do some serious damage. If they return with another account, just ban them again. Don’t ever argue or fight with a forum troll – we call doing that, feeding the trolls and by feeding the trolls, you are only fueling the massive wild fire on your community. Don’t fuel the fire and don’t let your members get burned in the process.
To be clear, by allowing the troll a public fight on this topic I allowed to feed the troll and felt right into his trap.
My bad, let's say I must be a bit rusty about forum administration and I need to catch up.